You get to define what a healthy relationship is for you. All relationships should be rooted in trust, communication, respect, safety, and boundaries. No one should feel like they have to do anything they’re uncomfortable with because they want to start or maintain a relationship, or feel threatened. As an individual, think about what you’re comfortable with in relationship with friends, family, peers, colleagues, and romantic partner(s). Discuss your decisions including what you feel comfortable with, when, where, and how. Consent means active, enthusiastic, and mutual decision-making and participation. Your discussion and decisions should be respected.

  • You respect and value each other
  • You support and encourage each other’s goals and ambitions
  • You trust each other
  • You feel safe expressing your opinions without feeling judged or put down
  • You share decision-making 
  • You encourage each other to have relationships with friends, family, etc. 
  • Your self-esteem is enhanced by the relationship
  • Your body is yours and no one else has the right to tell you what to do with it
  • You should be able to talk openly about your feelings and thoughts and have them respected
  • You should feel comfortable with your decisions, and shouldn’t feel pressured verbally, emotionally, or physically to change your choices or decisions
  • If something makes you feel uncomfortable, you can stop or say no at any time
  • No matter how long you’ve been with someone or how many times you’ve done something, you have the right to stop, change, or say no at anytime for any reason
  • Respect your partner with safe sex practices, like getting tested for STIs and considering birth control options